Friday, May 18, 2012

~ What is A Womaniser ? ~


For certain men, the challenge of seducing different women is far more interesting than the actual pursuit of a long-term romantic relationship. Such a man is known as a womanizer, or sometimes a Lothario or Don Juan.

A womanizer is often a serial dater who enjoys the thrill of the chase more than the end game of the dating ritual. Women who have encountered such men may have other names for them, such as players or walk-away Joes.

A womanizer generally considers himself to be both a ladies' man and a man's man, maintaining an atmosphere of mystique and sophistication. He may surround himself with other male players or a support posse, but he clearly exudes a superior level of self-confidence bordering on vanity and self-absorption.

While all of these trappings may help a womanizer seduce a new target, he is generally following a script which has proven to be successful in the past. Conversations are usually surface-level and tailored to appeal to the woman's personality and interests. A serial womanizer is keenly aware of how to hold a woman's interest through conversation and other seductions, which may work in his favor if he wants the date to escalate physically. This is all part of the seduction game for a chronic womanizer, who may not even be truly interested in the woman as an individual.

A habitual womanizer may have serious issues with women in general, which can be the hidden motivation behind the seduction and ultimate rejection process. A womanizer is often a male chauvinist who views women as inferiors or manipulators who somehow deserve to be played by an aggressive male. A womanizer may be so concerned about rejection that he makes sure he remains in complete control of every relationship he enters, no matter how superficial or fleeting. Some relationship experts suggest that a habitual womanizer may be reenacting a painful break-up experience every time he picks up a new "conquest."

Other womanizers may actually love the company of women too much. They cannot commit to an exclusive or monogamous relationship because there are far too many other interesting types of women to pursue. They don't necessarily want to hurt their current partners, but they also cannot resist the temptation to flirt with other women as assurance of their sexual or romantic prowess. A player or ladies' man may be very good at hiding his true nature from a long-term romantic partner, but eventually most womanizers either get caught in an infidelity or mature to the point where a monogamous relationship holds more appeal than serial seductions.

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He has lots of female acquaintances but no female friends

He finds it hard to see women in anything but a sexual light and views every female as a potential conquest. This makes him incapable of maintaining a normal platonic friendship with anyone of the opposite sex.

He promises the earth

While most men are reticent about commitment, a womaniser doesn’t think twice about hinting at a future together. Of course he has no intention of seeing it through, he just knows exactly what you want to hear. Be wary of a chap who promises too much too soon. It’ll hurt like hell when he decides to take it away – and he certainly will once he’s got what he wanted.

He asks a lot of questions

At first you think it’s great that he’s so attentive and interested in finding out what makes you tick, but don’t be fooled. He’s just doing the research that he’ll later put to good use by pretending to have the same aspirations, tastes, likes and dislikes as you.

He makes you think dirty

A cunning Cassanova is adept at priming females for sex by subtly dropping a few innuendos into the conversation or finding excuses to bring up the topic of sex. It’s a smooth way of manipulating your subconscious into thinking naughty thoughts. And guess who reaps the rewards?

He arranges dates at hotel bars

Once he’s got you in the mood with all the sexy talk, it’s only a short trip from the bar to the bedroom. See what he did there?

He’s vain

Most womanisers have big egos and a sense of vanity to match. Just because he wears expensive clothes and is always well-heeled doesn’t mean he’s a lothario but over-confidence, a general sense of superiority, swagger and a tendency to show off should be viewed with extreme caution.

He locks his phone

If his phone rarely stops buzzing and he starts acting shady or shifts the screen away from your gaze whenever it rings, his furtive behaviour is trying to hide the fact that he’s busy making plans with other women.

He ‘forgets’ your name

While he may not be clumsy enough to actually call you by another name, he will employ little tricks so as not to blow his cover. Be on your guard if he starts using blanket terms of endearment like ‘babe’, ‘darling’ and ‘sweetie’ when you’ve only just met. He’s just making sure he doesn’t get your name muddled up with one of his other girlfriends.

He’s over complimentary

Womanisers are clever creatures. They have a unique sense that’s finely attuned to the female psyche and hence are brilliant at knowing what you want to hear even if they don’t mean it. When compliments glide off his tongue like honey it’s hard not to be taken in, but you have to ask yourself how many times he’s used these lines before.

He has as short attention span

A womaniser gets off on the challenge of a conquest but rapidly loses interest once he’s achieved his goal - getting you into bed. Obviously, you can’t know this for sure until it’s too late, but if you suspect he might be a player try staving off sexual involvement for a week to see if he loses interest.

He flashes his cash

Womanisers often use wealth to impress their prey. He may well make sure your glass is always full and that you never have to reach for your purse, but his intentions are not honourable.