Saturday, May 21, 2011

~ Appreciation ~

Appreciation ........

What to appreciate, When and How:

One young academically excellent person went for an interview for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; BUT in that Company, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.

The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was there a year he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no".

The director asked, " Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth answered, "my father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother who paid my school fees".

The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The director requested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands that was smooth and perfect to the director.

The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?" The youth answered, "never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could"

The director said, I have a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrow morning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange. With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and that there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that she shuddered when his mother's hands were cleaned with water.

This is the first time that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruises in the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye and asked: "Can you tell what you did and learnt yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, "I cleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes".

The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt"

The youth said:

"Number 1, I know what appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would not be successful today.

Number 2, Now I know how to work together with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done.

Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship."

The director said, "This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired."

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employee worked diligently and as a team and the company improved tremendously.

The Lessons from this anecdote:

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, develops "entitlement mentality"and always puts himself first. He is ignorant of his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the suffering of his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/will achieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

If we happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask the question :

- whether we did/do love our kids or destroy them.

-You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano, watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

-After a meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers and sisters.

-It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love and show them the correct way.

-You want them to understand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will grow old, become weak and that their hair too will grow grey.

-The most important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate, experience and learn the effort and ability needed to work with others to get things done. They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them for who they are!

Friday, May 20, 2011

~ The Story of life ~

The Story of life ..........

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be (possibly your roommate, neighbor, coworker, long lost friend, lover, or even a complete stranger), *but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.*

And sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

*Everything happens for a reason.*

Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul.
Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. *Even the bad experiences can be learned from.* In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious when you open your heart.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

*Make every day count.*

Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and actually listen.

Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high.

Hold your head up because you have every right to.

Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

You can make of your life anything you wish.

Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

*Most importantly,* *if you LOVE someone tell him or her, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.*

And learn a lesson in life each day that you live.

That's The Story Of Life.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

~ Love ~

Love Is ........

Love is a volatile word, a mysterious realm all its own. It can blind and mislead the most calculated of men. Love is like an unpredictable reaction, a different experience each and every time it makes its presence known. Love can kill everything around it, Love can spark growth, Love can rebuild and Love can destroy….

Love can be a blessed event and a dark moment all in the blink of an eye. Nobody can predict when or where love will come about…how it will affect those involved or what it may reveal about each person it touches…

Love is unpredictable, a blessing and a curse. Love is a lesson all in itself, some catch on while others drown slowly it its vast meaning. Love comes and goes, both caresses and stings…it can bring life and usher in death….all in the same breath.

Love is caustic, an unprecedented foe to those not strong enough to weather the storm it is. Love, in whatever shape it takes and whatever outcome it brings about, also brings balance. So when there’s death it brings life, when there’s pain, Love brings strength, when there’s a loss, Love brings something overwhelmingly valuable. Love is the great equalizer in this chaotic lifetime. Love is what it chooses to be at that very instance it appears. Love can be a much-needed breakup so that someone can start anew; Love can be that one person that compliments another. Love can be whatever the moment needs in order to restore balance. It might not always be what one desires or what one may feel they need…rather Love is a method that allows the forces that be to restore what sorely was missing at that moment in time.

Love is Joy…
Love is Pain…
Love is Strength…
Love is Balance.

Monday, May 9, 2011

~ What do women want ?~

What do women want ?............

To understand women, the first thing that men need to do is stop believing in the concept that men and women are totally different in their thoughts and actions and behavior. Well, men are not from Mars and women are definitely not from Venus. Open your eyes, and you'll notice that both men and women belong to our very own, beloved Earth. The aspirations, expectations, and dreams of every women are as similar (or as varied), as that of men.

To find out what a woman wants; you will have to find what does a man want? (And every man knows, that, no matter what the cliché says, its not just sex.) It's love, care and affection; money, success and status; appreciation, companionship, friendship and admiration. All this and much more...

A woman wants these very things. This is true, not only about the great and lofty ideals of life, but also about the small, everyday things. Once you understand this, you'll never be exasperated and confused about what it is, that is demanded of you, in any situation; be it, with your mother, sister, wife, girlfriend or a female colleague. Try and picture yourself in the same situation and ask yourself, what you would want in a similar situation? For example after a tiring day, if you would want a cup of tea or coffee, that's exactly what a woman would want too. Similarly, as you would want to achieve success, power and status in your professional career; that's exactly what a woman aims at, too. And if occasionally, you think that you need appreciation for the work that you do; that exactly is, what women need.

I'm not saying that there are no differences at all. However, these differences are not related to the needs; but rather the behavior and reaction-patterns. For example, most women will discuss problems at length; while men aim at solving them at the earliest. Or that, women like to share, and expect their men to listen; which means - not offer solutions, but just LISTEN. And yes, women can cry easily; be it a happy occasion or a sad one, or in fact, none at all. Most men find this, hard to deal with. Nonetheless, this is also not very difficult to tackle. In situations like these, all that a women needs, is assurance and trifle bit of more care and affection.

Once men change their perspective towards women, they will realize that women sacrifice quite a lot, in every relationship. Also that, women, neither do realize this, nor are they unhappy about it. Life would really be far more easier, for us women, if we were to get a little more respect from people around us, especially those for whom we care. And this respect will be given, only if men understand that we are not very different from them. That we too, have the same expectations from life. And once this happens, every relationship between a man and a woman will become much more momentous, enriched, enjoyable and delightful.