Wednesday, December 31, 2014

10 Things to Let Go Before 2014 Ends ............

let go before 2014 ends

With the New Year coming, it’s time to do some cleaning and it isn’t your house that needs to be de-cluttered. It’s your soul that could use a little lightening.

When all of those toxic thoughts and emotions are clogging your mind, there isn’t any room for the good stuff. You need to clean out those negative thoughts and make room for new, exciting and positive emotions that will come in the New Year.

If you have been carrying around too much baggage then this cleaning is for you. Check out these 10 things to let go of so you can enjoy a happy, healthy 2015:

1. Jealousy is truly a green-eyed monster that fosters too many negative emotions. You have to let go of that jealousy and realize what you have is amazing and you don’t need to envy anybody else.

2. Self-doubt will make getting out of bed very difficult. You are a beautiful person and God loves you. Forget about the rest!

3. Guilt is a horrible burden to carry. Ask for forgiveness and move on. Don’t let it mire you down in the muck.

4. Painful emotional memories can hold you back from enjoying all that life has to offer. It is easy to get hung up on the pain and forget all about the good stuff that happens around you.

5. Anger is a dangerous emotion. It can make you physically and mentally ill. You have to let it go and embrace forgiveness or figure out a way to make a change that will leave you feeling less angry.

6. Feeling inferior in your group of friends, co-workers or in life in general is not warranted. You are just as deserving of love and respect and you must let go of those inferiority feelings and rise up.

7. Feeling trapped can quickly lead to negative emotions. If you feel like you are stuck in a relationship, job or other situation; pray and make plans to get out.

8. Feeling insecure all the time is a lot of stress. Let go of the insecurity and remind yourself you are good at your job or you are in a loving relationship.

9. Being afraid of the future or the unknown can hold you back. Embrace the future and trust in your faith to carry you through.

10. Regret will leave you stuck in the past. Let it go. You may have made a wrong decision, but it is over. It is time to move forward. Accept what happened and learn from the mistake. You are human!

Why Can't We Say Sorry ..............

Why Can't We Say Sorry

Sorry is really the hardest word to say.

I am sorry
Call it inception or pre-conditioned exposure, but all our lives we've been programmed to think that we are great, we are good, we are the most talented/ important/ wonderful person in the world.

Whether by our parents, grandparents, teachers, leaders, etc., we are taught that we must always think highly of ourselves. Never apologise for who we are but this is sort of like a flaw in design. Hence, maybe in some perverse way, we assumed that we are never wrong or could do no wrong. Not in the eyes of our biggest fans. But mistakes do happen.
"I'm sorry!" – just two words but so hard to form in our mouth and say it out loud.

Why can't we say it?

Apologising means we're acknowledging that we've done something wrong and a mistake has happened. It is an admission that we're just as vulnerable as the next person. Some feel this is a threat to their status quo while losing a bit of dignity and sense of self-worth is hard to swallow.

It's all about pride really. We fear that apologising will make us appear weak and in danger of losing the power we have over someone or anyone. It makes us look incompetent or inadequate.

We can all identify with how challenging an endeavour this apologising business is. Admit it, who likes to be in the wrong? So, we stay in denial in the hopes that if there's no admission of fault, then there is no need for accountability or to take responsibility.

Fact is, saying sorry is meant to make us feel vulnerable. It is a soul-baring exercise that helps us to build empathy and be open to another person's feelings or perspective. It's not easy to admit that we've hurt someone or cause a great deal of pain, and harder still to see ourselves in a less-than-positive light.

But when we are able to face our flaws and take responsibility for our shortcomings, it makes us human. It is then easier to make things right again.

 Sometimes it's really not about being right but rather being aware of the bigger picture. So say the equally important words – I'm sorry – because it matters.

Saturday, December 27, 2014

Let Go of Yesterday and Live ..............

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”Hermann Hesse

It’s true that your past contributes to who you are today – what you think, what you say, and what you feel. However, dwelling on your past can hinder the happiness and personal growth that are waiting for you right now.

More important, letting go of the past gives you a clearer perspective; a freer perspective to be in the present moment. Let go of yesterday and live for today.

 Frustration. No one likes to be stuck. But if you focus on the feeling of being stuck, the frustration can give you energy. Take in how frustrated you are with where you are, you’ll be more likely to use it to make a fresh start, and truly put it behind you.

 Give up the victimhood. Everyone is a victim at some point in their life, and there is no doubt that terrible things may have happened to you that were unfair. But seeing yourself as a victim is being focused on the past. Instead, look forward to who you can be today, master of your own destiny.

Expand Your Self Perception. Many times, the problem with being fixated on yesterday is that you see yourself a certain way, as being a certain way. Sometimes, you can get beyond this problem simply by realizing that some of the ways that you view yourself may be incorrect. Try to see yourself with fresh eyes and new opportunities will arise.

 Give yourself more credit. Fixation on the mistakes of the past often occur because you are being too hard on yourself. Mistakes happen. The reason is often a small thing, and not related to your value as a person. The problem is that we tend to connect our self worth to our mistakes, when instead we should focus on our accomplishments.

 View your mistakes as gifts. Your mistakes don’t have some deep meaning about whether you matter. They are gifts that show you the way forward.

Making a list of goals can help you shift your focus towards the future. Your life should be about tomorrow and not the day before. You can help yourself move in a new direction by getting a sense of what you want out of life. 

 Pay attention to how you feel. If you can figure out what is making all the negative emotions happen, you can often undo them and focus on other things.

Friday, December 26, 2014

Stop Anger Before It Stops You ..........

Anger is something that each one of us has experienced - some of us only occasionally, some almost daily. Can we eliminate all anger? Probably not. We will always have expectations, and those expectations will often be unmet. Disappointment is the principle cause of anger. When we are disappointed, we look for someone to blame. Declaring someone to be at fault is the nature of anger. Anger is always directed at someone - 

You've told yourself a hundred times that you aren't going to get angry - really angry - ever again, but wham, you start to feel that telltale heat, locked shoulders, clenched jaw, shallow breathing. Someone has just done something really awful and you are angry at them. What now?

 7 Secrets to Stop Anger before It Stops You:

1. Recognize when you are angry: It may not immediately occur to you that you are angry. You know that you have been wronged, and you can see everyone around you take a step back, but especially if you are really angry, it may take a while to gain the clarity to acknowledge your anger. Anger clouds perception and thinking, so make a special effort to spot it early and put it into words, "I am angry."

2. Breathe deeply: Concentrate on taking slow deep breaths. Sometimes this is all it takes to break out of anger and gain clarity on the issue. At other times, breathing deeply is just a beginning, but it paves the way for the rest of the secrets.

3. Focus your anger: Get clear what you are angry about and who you are angry at. Talk to yourself, "I am angry at Joe because he ..." Don't let your anger expand onto innocent bystanders, especially those trying to help calm you down. Don't refocus your anger onto everything that Joe has ever done or failed to do.

4. Remember that you are in charge: Anger is an expression of frustration and helplessness. Remember that you always have options - you can design your own life. No one can steal your happiness - unless you let them.

5. Look for the silver lining: There is a silver lining to every disappointment. Your boss fired you and you are furious. Probably it was a blessing. Now you have the opportunity to get a better job that you really enjoy.

6. Consider forgiveness: Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Forgive everyone for everything in order to give anger and resentment a chance to fade. Forgive and you can become happy. Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is our gift to ourselves - a great gift - the gift of happiness.

7. Accept that Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair": Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. To choose happiness, be open to receiving whatever life throws at you - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Keep It In Your Hand ....... Not In Your Heart


As much as you can, keep dunya (worldly life) in your hand--not in your heart. 
That means when someone insults you, keep it out of your heart so it doesn't make you bitter or defensive. When someone praises you, also keep it out of your heart, so it doesn't make you arrogant and self-deluded. When you face hardship and stress, don't absorb it in your heart, so you don't become hopeless and overwhelmed. Instead keep it in your hands and realize that everything passes. 
When you're given a gift by God, don't hold it in your heart. Hold it in your hand so that you don't begin to love the gift more than the giver. 
And so that when it is taken away you can truly respond with 'inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon': 'indeed we belong to God, and to God we return'.

Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Silence ...........


Sometimes  in silence that answers are finally found.

Friday, December 12, 2014

40 Pelajaran oleh Nabi Muhammad SAW ..........


01. Menahan diri daripada tidur diantara waktu fajar dan ishraq, asar dan maghrib, maghrib dan isya.

02. Menghindarkan diri mendekati orang yang mempunyai bau yang kurang menyenangkan.

03. Jangan tidur diantara manusia yang berkata buruk sebelum tidur.

04. Jangan makan atau minum menggunakan tangan kiri.

05. Jangan memakan kembali makanan yang telah dikeluarkan dari celah gigi anda.

06. Jangan mematah-matahkan jari anda.

07. Periksa kasut anda sebelum memakainya.

08. Jangan mendongak ketika sedang solat.

09. Jangan meludah didalam tandas.

10. Jangan membersihkan gigi anda dengan arang.

11. Duduk ketika sedang memakai seluar/kain
12. Jangan memecahkan benda yang keras/sukar menggunakan gigi anda.

13. Jangan meniup makanan yang sedang panas, sebaliknya anda boleh mengipasnya.

14. Jangan mencari kesalahan orang lain.

15. Jangan bercakap diantara waktu azan dan iqamat.

16. Jangan bercakap didalam tandas.

17. Jangan berkata dongeng(palsu) tentang rakan anda.

18. Jangan mengganggu ketenteraman rakan anda.

19. Jangan memandang belakang secara kerap apabila sedang berjalan.

20. Jangan menghentakkan kaki ketika sedang berjalan.

21. Jangan mencurigai tentang rakan anda.

22. Jangan menipu sepanjang masa.

23. Jangan menghidu makanan ketika anda sedang makan.

24. Berkata dengan jelas, agar orang lain boleh faham apa yang anda katakan.

25. Hindarkan berjalan sendirian.

26. Jangan membuat keputusan sendiri, tapi rujuk pada yang arif.

27. Jangan bangga(riak) akan diri sendiri.

28. Jangan mencela makanan anda.

29. Jangan bermegah(sombong).

30. Jangan menghalau pengemis.

31. Layan tetamu anda dengan ikhlas dan baik.

32. Sabar ketika dalam kesusahan.

33. Membantu dengan tujuan yang baik.

34. Muhasabah diri dan bertaubat.

35. Berbuat baik pada mereka yang berbuat jahat padamu.

36. Berpuas hati dengan apa yang anda ada saat ini.

37. Jangan tidur berlebihan-ini akan menyebabkan penyakit lupa.

38. Bertaubat sekurang-kurangnya 100 kali sehari (istighfar).

39. Jangan makan dalam gelap.

40. Jangan makan dengan mulut yang penuh.

Sunday, December 7, 2014

65 Things You Should Remember After Someone Has Done You Wrong ...........


Part of growing up is realizing that people aren’t always nice, and sometimes those you thought you knew so well will stab you right in the nuts (both of them).
After you’ve been castrated and left to bleed on the side of the road, you become aware of the harsh truth that a large part of life is spent learning how to take the blows.
Because no one goes through life unscathed. We’ve all had our hearts ripped out at least once, and we’ve all had the wind knocked out of us — figuratively and literally.

We’ve all experienced heartache and betrayal, treachery and deceit. The older we get, the harder we become, building a strong outer wall to protect us against phonies and unsuspecting stabs in the back.
We learn to deal with pain, teach ourselves how to heal and grow stronger after each attack. We create coping mechanisms and share advice, secrets and tricks to mending our fragile, yet resilient, hearts.
We all know what it’s like to be wronged, to have the people closest to us treat us worse than any stranger could.

We’ve all experienced friends who’ve turned into enemies and lovers who’ve turned into distant memories of the people we once knew. That’s life.

Life isn’t about perfect relationships or smooth sailing, it’s about falling as far as you can and climbing even higher the second time around. It’s about meeting new people and learning from the ones who’ve done you wrong.

So if someone just did you dirty, took your heart out of your body and stomped on it, leaving you to wash it off and put it back in bruised and leaking, just remember these 65 things:

1. Karma…
2. Karma…
3. Karma.
4. They’re probably going to do it again…
5. So it’s a good thing they’re out of your life.
6. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
7. (Just like Kanye.)
8. You will love again.
9. Don’t trust so easily next time.
10. Not everyone is out to get you.
11. Having your guard up is a good thing…
12. But don’t have it up too high.
13. There’s nothing your mother’s cooking can’t fix.
14. They make voodoo dolls for this reason.
15. Remember, it’s OK to eat your feelings.
16. There’s always an album that will understand what you’re feeling at this exact moment.
17. You can’t change people.
18. You’re not supposed to have a million friends.
19. Social media will never make you feel better.
20. No matter how many statuses you post, it won’t take the pain away.
21. Time is the worst and best thing.
22. Sometimes you just need a bubble bath.
24. You deserve better.
25. There, literally, are too many fish in the sea.
26. This is what art is made out of…
27. And the best way to get over someone is to turn them into literature.
28. The most important relationship you have is with yourself.
29. Speaking of Carrie Bradshaw, there’s always “Sex and The City.”
30. It’s not about you, it’s about them.
31. At least you weren’t married for 72 days.
32. There’s always someone worse off than you are.
33. There are people who love you who would never hurt you… like Ben and Jerry.
34. This is what maturing looks like.
35. It’s also what we call a “learning experience.”
36. Because something always comes out of the pain.
38. Everything happens for a reason.
39. This is what burning bridges is for.
40. There’s nothing wrong with staying in bed for a whole weekend.
41. You’re allowed to burn photos…
42. And untag Facebook ones.
43. But make sure to GET OFF FACEBOOK.
44. What goes around comes around, just ask Justin Timberlake.
45. Now you know who your real friends are.
46. This is what stress balls were made for.
47. You can always join a fight club…
48. Or get really into working out.
49. There’s always alcohol…
50. And weed…
51. Lots of weed…
52. And dark bars filled with strangers.
53. Remember, “this too shall pass.”
53. You’ll understand “Atonement” even better now… and you’ll get to see Keira Knightley again.
54. This is a good time to take a vacation.
55. “Don’t get mad. Get even.”
56. This should just inspire you to work harder and get your revenge.
57. This is what Elite Daily is for.
58. You can’t win them all.
59. It’s the bad in life that makes you appreciate the good.
60. Pain really does make you stronger.
61. You will not remember this in 10 years.
62. OK, maybe 20 (it must have been really bad).
63. Holding on to anger doesn’t solve anything.
64. There are good people out there, I promise.
65. This is happening for a reason


Thursday, December 4, 2014


Bagamana Jenazah Mufti Boleh Berada Di Perkuburan Kristian
Kisah ini terjadi di India.

Pada suatu hari, seorang mufti meninggal dunia dan beliau pun disemadikan di tanah perkuburan Islam. Pada hari yang sama, seorang remaja perempuan Kristian telah meninggal dunia dan disimpan di tanah perkuburan Kristian. Disebabkan oleh suatu kes jenayah yang tidak dapat diselesaikan, pihak polis terpaksa menggali semula kubur remaja perempuan Kristian tersebut. Alangkah terkejutnya mereka tatkala mendapati mayat perempuan tersebut tidak ada di situ bahkan di kubur itu tersemadinya jenazah seorang mufti! Mereka semua bingung dan hairan bagaimana jenazah boleh bertukar dengan lain.

Hasil perbincangan bersama-sama penduduk Muslim, pihak polis kemudiannya menggali semula kubur mufti tersebut yang asalnya berada di tanah perkuburan Islam. Sekali lagi mengejutkan. Di kubur tersebut, mereka telah menjumpai jenazah remaja perempuan Kristian tadi. Orang ramai semakin bingung. Berita itu tersebar luas sehingga memaksa mereka bertanya kepada waris si mati mengenai apa yang telah remaja perempuan dan mufti itu amalkan ketika di dunia. Mesti ada sesuatu yang Allah hendak jadikan pengajaran terhadap peristiwa bertukarnya kubur itu.

Ibu bapa kepada jenazah perempuan Kristian itu memberitahu, ”Ketika anak kami hidup, dia ada berhasrat untuk memeluk agama Islam tetapi kami menghalangnya. Kami sendiri tidak tahu status agamanya ketika dia meninggal dunia. Adakah masih dalam Kristian atau memeluk Islam secara senyap-senyap.”

Isteri kepada mufti itu pula menceritakan, ”Sepanjang hidup, suami saya memang seorang yang banyak membantu masyarakat menyelesaikan pelbagai masalah agama. Ramai orang bertanyakan kepadanya pelbagai perkara dan dia dapat menyelesaikannya dengan baik. Setiap malam dia akan bangun bersolat tahajjud.” Mereka yang mendengar masih tidak menemui kecacatan kepada sifat mufti itu. Dia seorang yang mulia dan berjasa kepada masyarakat. Tapi, mengapa Allah menukarkan kuburnya ke tanah perkuburan Kristian. Sehinggalah, si isteri meneruskan ceritanya. ”… Cuma, kadang-kadang saya terdengar suami saya merungut sesuatu. Sewaktu dia bangun untuk solat malam, dia berkata, ’Susahnya jadi orang Islam. Kena solat, kena buat itu … kena buat ini … . Jadi orang agama lain kan senang? Tak perlu nak susah-susah buat semua tu’.”

Kadang-kadang, kita tak tahu, amalan manakah yang boleh mendatangkan kemurkaan Allah. Sebab itulah, kita perlu menjauhi semua perkara dan jangan banyak soal mengapa Allah menyuruh kita berbuat sesuatu dan melarang kita berbuat yg lain.

Kadang-kadang, dengan niat yang salah pun Allah murka! Kita juga tidak tahu, amalan manakah yang boleh mendatangkan ’senyuman’ Allah. Sebab itulah, kita mesti berusaha untuk melakukan segala kebaikan dan jangan banyak soal mengapa Allah perintahkan kita berbuat itu dan berbuat ini. Dengan niat yang baik pun, Allah suka!

Berhati-hatilah tatkala anda memberi pendapat mengenai sesuatu pelaksanaan hukum-hukum Allah. Tidak takutkah anda dimurkai Allah? Siapa kita untuk mempertikaikan perintah Allah?- Wallahua’lam