Saturday, October 31, 2015

Yesterday Once More ..........

Because none of us have many years to live, and we can’t take along anything when we go, so we don’t have to be too thrifty…

Spend the money that should be spent, enjoy what should be enjoyed, donate what you are able to donate, but don’t leave all to your children or grandchildren, for you don’t want them to become parasites who are waiting for the day you will die!!

Don’t worry about what will happen after we are gone, because when we return to dust, we will feel nothing about praises or criticisms. The time to enjoy the worldly life and your hard earned wealth will be over! 

Don’t worry too much about your children, for children will have their own destiny and should find their own way. Don’t be your children’s slave. Care for them, love them, give them gifts but also enjoy your money while you can. Life should have more to it than working from the cradle to the grave!!

Don’t expect too much from your children. Caring children, though caring, would be too busy with their jobs and commitments to render much help.

Uncaring children may fight over your assets even when you are still alive, and wish for your early demise so they can inherit your properties and wealth.

Your children take for granted that they are rightful heirs to your wealth; but that you have no claims to their money.

50-year old like you, don’t trade in your health for wealth by working yourself to an early grave anymore… Because your money may not be able to buy back your health…

When to stop making money, and how much is enough (hundred thousands, million, ten million)?
Out of thousand hectares of good farm land, you can consume only three quarts (of rice) daily; out of a thousand mansions, you only need eight square meters of space to rest at night.

So, as long as you have enough food and enough money to spend, that is good enough. You should live happily. Every family has its own problems. Just do not compare with others for fame and social status and see whose children are doing better, etc., but challenge others for happiness, health, enjoyment, quality of life and longevity…

Don’t worry about things that you can’t change because it doesn’t help and it may spoil your health.

You have to create your own well-being and find your own place of happiness. 
As long as you are in good mood and good health, think about happy things, do happy things daily and have fun in doing, then you will pass your time happily every day.

One day passes without happiness, you will lose one day.
One day passes with happiness, and then you gain one day.

In good spirit, sickness will cure; in a happy spirit, sickness will cure faster; in high and happy spirits; sickness will never come.
With good mood, suitable amount of exercise, always in the sun, variety of foods, reasonable amount of vitamin and mineral intake, hopefully you will live another 20 or 30 years of healthy life of pleasure.

Above all, learn to cherish the goodness around… and FRIENDS… They all make you feel young and “wanted”… without them you may surely feel lost!!

Sunday, August 2, 2015

Never Take For Granted .............

If you love something, love it completely, cherish it, say it, but most importantly, show it.
Life is finite and fragile, and just because something is there one day, it might not be the next. 
Never take that for granted.
Say what you need to say, then say a little more. 
Say too much. 
Show too much. 
Love too much.
Everything is temporary but love.
Love outlives us all.

Saturday, July 4, 2015

"What Really Matter" ..........

For each of us eventually,
Whether we are
Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.

So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought, but what you built; 

not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom and for what.

A life lived significantly is not one of circumstance,as much as it was of unfailing dedication, of choice.
A life that touched and cured a dying and suffering humanity then and now.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Self Reminder ..........

-  To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.

-   Lighten up on yourself. No one is perfect. Gently accept your humanness.

-   Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer

-   If you look into your own heart, and you find nothing wrong there, what is there to worry about? What is there to fear?

-   To experience peace does not mean that your life is always blissful. It means that you are capable of tapping into a blissful state of mind amidst the normal chaos of a hectic life.

-   Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.

-   Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.

-   Give your stress wings, and let it fly away.

-   Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.

-   Life should be touched, not strangled. You’ve got to relax, let it happen at times, and at others move forward with it.

-    It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

-    The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.

-    You are beautiful. Know this. Anyone who tells you otherwise is simply lying. You are beautiful.

-    The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.

-    Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

-    What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

-    To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

-   To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.

-     When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.

-    We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.

-    Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.

-    Whatever you are doing, love yourself for doing it. Whatever you are feeling, love yourself for feeling it.

-     It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.

-    Stop focusing on how stressed you are, and remember how blessed you are.

-    Invent your world. Surround yourself with people, color, sounds, and work that nourish you.


Friday, May 8, 2015

Forgiving Yourself ..........


At some point in our lives, all of us have been wronged by another person and felt hurt, angry or resentful. It has happened before and inevitably it will happen again; you can be pretty sure of it. Further, and maybe even more importantly, we have hurt ourselves countless times, perhaps even daily, through our own mistakes or perceived mistakes. 

Anger, hurt, resentment are all natural reactions to wrongs against us whether initiated purposefully or inadvertently, or by someone else or ourselves. It is and part of being human. The tricky and more complicated part comes about when we harbor these feelings. This includes waking up angry, going to bed upset, criticizing ourselves, criticizing others, walking around throughout the day feeling upset as we replay “tapes” of past situations, “should’ve’s,” “could’ve’s,” and “would’ve’s.”

Not resolving these hurts no question creates a negative way of life. Even when we do not consciously think of the hurt moment-to-moment, if we bury it and “store” it somewhere in our being, no matter how deep and far away we think we put it, we emit a definite energy of negativity on a subconscious level. We do more harm to ourselves and our worlds when we go about our days with these harbored negative emotions. The resulting harm is far greater than the initial hurt ever was. It is damaging to our well-being and health and worst of it attracts more negativity into our lives.

First things first! It all begins with YOU!

Forgiving yourself others does not mean forgetting or condoning what happened. Nor does it mean giving up the values that were violated. Nor does it mean giving the “okay” for the same thing to happen again. It is also not condemning yourself or the other person or seeking justice or compensation as a means of “righting” the situation.

Forgiveness, simply put, is foregoing the resentment or revenge and giving the gifts of generosity and love instead. It is a letting go of control and a realization of acceptance. The result —-> It is FREEING! We release the shackles we currently walk around with from memories of the past when we are willing to forgive.
Because forgiveness has the greatest benefit to the person doing the forgiving, it is one of the greatest gifts that you can give to yourself. Further, it frees you to be your best. Forgiving allows us to get on with the things that really matter our lives and to open up our minds and hearts to new ways of seeing others, the world and ourselves. It releases energy that takes up lots and lots of space in our lives – space that can be used for more productive thoughts and actions of a positive nature.

Guilt and lack of forgiveness of self and others, burdens many people with the heavy weight of inappropriate shame and the destruction of deep-seated resentments. In recent years, much has been written about the destructiveness of repressed emotions and particularly anger and resentment in contributing to life-threatening illnesses. For example, depression is thought in some cases, to be caused by anger turned inward and is only one of the symptoms of the need to protect ourselves. Many other illnesses, and particularly addictions, are theorized to be expressions of a deep level of emotional pain. If for no other reason, there is one biggie to let go and forgive.

Can you see how forgiveness has everything to do with YOU and nothing to do with anyone else?
Many experts on the subject believe that a lack of forgiveness of others starts from our unwillingness to forgive ourselves. We believe that we are undeserving of love, respect, acceptance, appreciation, and the right to live a life where we walk in peace, joy, harmony, and abundance. We often turn those feelings outward and project them on others.

Remember when you learned to ride a bicycle?

I’m pretty sure you didn’t just hop on and ride away into the sunset. Instead, you fell off, probably several times, until you learned how to balance and push the pedals at the same time. Once you mastered balance, you may have had to perfect your steering so you could turn corners or turn around without crashing.

Granted, most people would not consider forgiveness a requirement for learning how to ride a bicycle, but it is there, nonetheless. What would have happened if the first time you fell of the bicycle, you labeled yourself “an uncoordinated loser” and never tried again? Ridiculous, I know. But, you didn’t do that, and the reason is you forgave yourself and got back up and tried again many times.

There are many different techniques on forgiving yourself. Finding the one that works for you can make a huge difference. A simple technique to get started is Positivity Self Reflection: Forgiving Yourself.

Friday, April 24, 2015

You .......

 “ If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…
an opportunity to get to know YOU, 
to learn how strong you really are, 
to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…
you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU.”

Thursday, April 23, 2015

Sucikan Hati ........

Ya Allah
Ya Rahman
Ya Rahim
Ya Malik
Ya Quddus
Ya Salam
Ya Mukmin
Ya Muhaimin
Ya ‘Aziz
Ya Jabbar
Ya Mutakabbir
Ya Kholiq
Ya Bari
Ya Musawwir
Ya Ghaffar
Ya Qahhar
Ya Wahhab
Ya Razzaq
Ya Fattah
Ya ‘Alim
Ya Qabidh
Ya Basit
Ya Khofidh
Ya Rafi'
Ya Mu’izz
Ya Mudzill
Ya Sami'
Ya Basir
Ya Hakam 

 Ya Adl
Ya Latif
Ya Khobir
Ya Halim
Ya ‘Azim
Ya Ghofur
Ya Syakur
Ya ‘Aliy
Ya Kabir
Ya Hafiz
Ya Muqit
Ya Hasib

Ya Jalil
Ya Karim
Ya Raqib
Ya Mujib
Ya Wasi'
Ya Hakim
Ya Wadud
Ya Majid
Ya Ba’iht
Ya Syahid
Ya Haqq
Ya Wakil
Ya Qawi
Ya Matin
Ya Wali
Ya Hamid
Ya Muhsi
Ya Mubdik
Ya Mu’id
Ya Muhyi
Ya Mumit
Ya Hayy
Ya Qayyum
Ya Wajid
Ya Majid
Ya Wahid 
 Ya Ahad
Ya Somad
Ya Qodir
Ya Muqtadir
Ya Muqaddim
Ya Muakhkhir
Ya Awwal
Ya Akhir
Ya Zohir
Ya Batin
Ya Wali

Ya Muta’aali
Ya Barr
Ya Tawwab
Ya Muntaqim
Ya Afuw
Ya Ra'uf
Ya Malik-ul-Mulk
Ya Muqsit
Ya Jami'
Ya Ghoni
Ya Mughni
Ya Mani'
Ya Dhor
Ya Nafi'
Ya Nur
Ya Hadi
Ya Badi
Ya Baqi
Ya Warith
Ya Rasyid
Ya Sobur 
 (Wirid Imam Ghazali - amalkan setiap kali lepas solat , sekurang-kurangnya 100x atau sebanyak-banyaknya 1000x sehari)

 Disebut Imam Ghazali r.m mengatakan, ada 4 amalan yang perlu kita membiasakan diri melakukannya selepas setiapkali menunaikan Solat  setiap hari iaitu:

(1)- Zikrullah
Hiasi permulaan pagi kita dengan zikrullah. Basahi lidah dengan zikir. 

Zikir harian susunan Imam Ghazali r.m adalah antara rangkaian zikir yang disyorkan  untuk kita ikut mengamalkannya.

(2)- Berdoa 
-minta dan berharap pada Allah. Mohon doa ke hadrat Allah tak kira di waktu senang mahupun susah.

(3)- Tilawatur-Quran 
- Kita cubalah membaca mana-mana surah pagi-pagi lagi setiap hari, biar jadi rutin.  Kita tengok kalam Allah dulu pagi-pagi bukan sibuk nak buka dan baca suratkhabar dulu pagi-pagi.

(4)- Tafakkur 
- iaitu memikir serta merenungkan kekuasaan dan ciptaan Allah. Pandang langit, pandang laut, tengok bukit bukau, tengok tumbuh-tumbuhan, perhatikan air yang mengalir, renung kejadian diri kita sebagai manusia. Ia dapat menyedarkan kita tentang Allah Yang Maha Besar.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Solitude vs. Loneliness .............


Loneliness is marked by a sense of isolation. Solitude, on the other hand, is a state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness. 

From the outside, solitude and loneliness look a lot alike. Both are characterized by solitariness. But all resemblance ends at the surface.

Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely—perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness.

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company.

Solitude is a time that can be used for reflection, inner searching or growth or enjoyment of some kind. Deep reading requires solitude, so does experiencing the beauty of nature. Thinking and creativity usually do too.

Solitude suggests peacefulness stemming from a state of inner richness. It is a means of enjoying the quiet and whatever it brings that is satisfying and from which we draw sustenance. It is something we cultivate. Solitude is refreshing; an opportunity to renew ourselves. In other words, it replenishes us.

Loneliness is harsh, punishment, a deficiency state, a state of discontent marked by a sense of estrangement, an awareness of excess aloneness.

Solitude is something you choose. Loneliness is imposed on you by others.

We all need periods of solitude, although temperamentally we probably differ in the amount of solitude we need. Some solitude is essential; It gives us time to explore and know ourselves. It is the necessary counterpoint to intimacy, what allows us to have a self worthy of sharing. 

Solitude gives us a chance to regain perspective. It renews us for the challenges of life. It allows us to get (back) into the position of driving our own lives, rather than having them run by schedules and demands from without.

Solitude restores body and mind. Lonelinesss depletes them.

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Vefasiz ..........


"  When you give someone your whole heart
 and he doesn’t want it, 
you cannot take it back. 
It’s gone forever..... "

Friday, January 30, 2015

"Reclaim Your Heart"...........


No one likes to fall. And few people would ever choose to drown. But in struggling through the ocean of this life, sometimes it’s so hard not to let the world in. Sometimes the ocean does enter us. The dunya does seep into our hearts.

And like the water that breaks the boat, when dunya enters, it shatters our heart. It shatters the boat. Recently, I was reminded of what a broken boat looks like, of what happens when you let everything in. I was reminded because I saw someone, just like me, fall in love too much with this life and seek to be filled by the creation. So the ocean of dunya shattered her boat, as it had shattered mine, and she fell out into the water. But she stayed down too long, and didn’t know how to come back up or what to hold on to.
So she drowned.

If you allow dunya to own your heart, like the ocean that owns the boat, it will take over. You will sink down to the depths of the sea. You will touch the ocean floor. And you will feel as though you were at your lowest point. Entrapped by your sins and the love of this life, you will feel broken. Surrounded by darkness. That’s the amazing thing about the floor of the ocean. No light reaches it.

But, this dark place is not the end. Remember that the darkness of night precedes the dawn. And as long as your heart still beats, this is not the death of it. You don’t have to die here. Sometimes, the ocean floor is only a stop on the journey. And it is when you are at this lowest point, that you are faced with a choice. You can stay there at the bottom, until you drown. Or you can gather pearls and rise back up—stronger from the swim, and richer from the jewels.

If you seek Him, God can raise you up, and replace the darkness of the ocean, with the light of His sun. He can transform what was once your greatest weakness into your greatest strength, and a means of growth, purification and redemption. Know that transformation sometimes begins with a fall. So never curse the fall. The ground is where humility lives. Take it. Learn it. Breathe it in. And then come back stronger, humbler and more aware of your need for Him. Come back having seen your own nothingness and His greatness. Know that if you have seen that Reality, you have seen much. For the one who is truly deceived is the one who sees his own self—but not Him. Deprived is the one who has never witnessed his own desperate need for God. Reliant on his own means, he forgets that the means, his own soul, and everything else in existence are His creation.

Seek God to bring you back up, for when He does, He will rebuild your ship. The heart that you thought was forever damaged will be mended. What was shattered will be whole again. Know that only He can do this. Seek Him.

And when He saves you, beg forgiveness for the fall, feel remorse over it—but not despair. As Ibn ul Qayyim (ra) has said: “Satan rejoiced when Adam (peace be upon him) came out of Paradise, but he did not know that when a diver sinks into the sea, he collects pearls and then rises again.”

There is a powerful and amazing thing about tawbah (repentance) and turning back to Allah (swt). We are told that it is a polish for the heart. What’s amazing about a polish is that it doesn’t just clean. It makes the object that is polished even shinier than it was before it got dirty. If you come back to God, seek His forgiveness, and refocus your life and heart on Him, you have the potential to be even richer than if you’d never fallen at all. Sometimes falling and coming back up gives you wisdom and humility that you may never otherwise have had. Ibn ul Qayyim (ra) writes:

“One of the Salaf (Pious Predecessors) said: “Indeed a servant commits a sin by which he enters Paradise; and another does a good deed by which he enters the Fire.” It was asked: How is that? So he replied: “The one who committed the sin, constantly thinks about it; which causes him to fear it, regret it, weep over it and feel ashamed in front of his Lord—the Most High—due to it. He stands before Allah, broken-hearted and with his head lowered in humility. So this sin is more beneficial to him than doing many acts of obedience, since it caused him to have humility and humbleness—which leads to the servant’s happiness and success—to the extent that this sin becomes the cause for him entering Paradise. As for the doer of good, then he does not consider this good a favor from his Lord upon him. Rather, he becomes arrogant and amazed with himself, saying: I have achieved such and such, and such and such. So this further increases him in self-adulation, pride and arrogance—such that this becomes the cause for his destruction.”

Allah (swt) reminds us in the Qur’an to never lose hope. He says: “Say, ‘O My servants who have transgressed against their souls [by sinning], despair not of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful,’” (39:53).

And so, this is a call to all those who have become enslaved by the tyranny of the self, imprisoned in the dungeon of the nafs (self) and desires. It is a call to all those who have entered the ocean of dunya, who have sunk into its depths, and become trapped by its crushing waves. Rise up. Rise up to the air, to the Real world above the prison of the ocean. Rise up to your freedom. Rise up and come back to life. Leave the death of your soul behind you. Your heart can still live and be stronger and purer than it ever was. Does not the polish of tawbah remake the heart even more beautiful than it was? Remove the veil you have sewn with your sins. Remove the veil between you and Life, between you and Freedom, between you and Light—between you and God. Remove the veil and rise up. Come back to yourself. Come back to where you began. Come back Home. Know that when all the other doors have shut in your face, there is One that is always open. Always. Seek it. Seek Him and He will guide you through the waves of the cruel ocean, into the mercy of the sun.

This world cannot break you—unless you give it permission. And it cannot own you unless you hand it the keys – unless you give it your heart. And so, if you have handed those keys to dunya for a while—take them back. This isn’t the End. You don’t have to die here. Reclaim your heart and place it with its rightful owner:

--Yasmin Mogahed, excerpt from "Reclaim Your Heart"

Saturday, January 3, 2015

Excuses ..........


Nobody is perfect ..
Yeah .... that's true ..
but the choices is ours ..
it's up to us to transform ourselves ..
to better ourselves ....
and to fill up what is lacking .. 
and not simply say "Nobody is perfect"
Don't give excuses to cover up our mistakes ..