Tuesday, May 17, 2016

LIFE AFTER 60 ...............

Life can be beyond 60, it is all in your hands! Many people feel happy, health-wise and security-wise, after 60 years of age, owing to the diminishing importance given to them and their opinions. But, it need not be so, if only we understand the basic principles of life and follow them scrupulously. Here are ten tips to age gracefully and make life after retirement pleasant.

1. Never say I am aged' :
There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions; the third is how old we feel we are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.

2. Health is wealth:
If you really love yourself taking care of your health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to others . Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance coverage.

3. Money is important:
Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But, never take it for granted.

4. Relaxation and recreation:
The most relaxing and recreating forces are good iman, taqwa, good sleep, and laughter (be happy) .

5. Time is precious:
It is almost like holding a horses' reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that everyday you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash - use it profitably. Live this moment; live it fully, now, in the present time.

6. Change is the only permanent thing: We should adapt change - it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join in the Islamic classes,  charity's etc. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.

7. Enlightened selfishness:
Many of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But, our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and the happiness we derive by doing good for others, without expecting anything in return. Perform a random act of kindness daily.

8. Forget and forgive:
Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forget bad things about them. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our blood pressure.

9. Everything has a purpose:
Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and is right in his own way.

10. Eveready for death:
We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. Perform amal solih,  pray and doa.  We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will go on.

Friday, May 13, 2016




...dalam kitab Tanbiihul Ghoofiliin berbicara tentang
Sesiapa  sahaja  yang sering duduk bersama 8 orang kelompok manusia, Allah akan memberinya 8 perkara:

1. barangsiapa yang duduk bersama orang-orang kaya, Allah akan menambahi cinta kepada dunia ; semangat untuk mendapatkan dunia.

2. barangsiapa yang duduk bersama orang-orang miskin, Allah akan menambahi perasaan syukur ; ridha atas pemberian Allah.

3. barangsiapa yang duduk dengan para pemimpin/raja, Allah akan menambahi perasaan sombong  kerasnya hati.

4. barangsiapa yang duduk dengan perempuan, Allah akan menambahi kebodohan & syahwat.

5. barangsiapa yang duduk dengan anak-anak kecil, Allah akan menambahi lalai & gurau senda.

6. Barangsiapa yang duduk dengan orang-orang fasik, Allah akan menambahi berani berbuat dosa & kemaksiatan serta mendorongkan diri untuk berbuat maksiat kemudian menunda-nunda akan taubat.

7. barangsiapa yang duduk dengan orang-orang soleh, Allah akan menambah perasaan cinta kepada amalan-amalan ketaatan.

8. barangsiapa yang duduk dengan para ulama', Allah akan menambahkan ilmu &  perasaan tidak cintakan dunia.

Cuba kita renungkanlah dengan siapa kita  bersahabat......????Wasallam