Friday, October 30, 2009

" The Missing Rib.................."

~ The Missing Rib ~

A girl in love asked her boyfriend.

Girl: Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?

Boy: You, of course!

Girl: In your heart, what am I to you?

Boy: The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. It was said that God saw that Adam was lonely, God took one of Adam's rib and created Eve. Every man has been searching for his missing rib, only when you find the woman of your life, you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while.

However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedule of life and the never-ending worries of daily problems, their life became mundane.

All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after the quarrel, the girl ran out of the house. At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse, retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he said but words spoken are like thrown away water, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined in breaking-up.

Before she left the house, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go." She continued, "It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by................

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country and back. She had married a foreigner and divorced. He felt anguished that she never waited for him.

In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met. At the airport, a place where there were many reunions and good byes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone, with just the security door separating them. She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?

Girl: I'm fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?

Boy: No.

Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number. Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved good bye.

Good bye.............

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York, in the event that shocked the world.

Midnight, once again, he lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew. She was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken.

(Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. Most often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. We vent our frustrations 99% at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to "think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done.

Things happen each day, many of which are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives.

Tomorrow may never come.....)

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

" Which One Are You?..........."

~ Which One Are You? ~

Once upon a time a daughter complained to her father that her life was miserable and that she didn't know how she was going to make it.

She was tired of fighting and struggling all the time. It seemed just as one problem was solved, another one soon followed.

Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.

Once the three pots began to boil, he placed potatoes in one pot, eggs in the second pot and ground coffee beans in the third pot.

He then let them sit and boil, without saying a word to his daughter. The daughter, moaned and impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing.

After twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He took the potatoes out of the pot and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. He then ladled the coffee out and placed it in a cup.

Turning to her, he asked. "Daughter, what do you see?" "Potatoes, eggs and coffee," she hastily replied.

"Look closer", he said, "and touch the potatoes." She did and noted that they were soft.

He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. Its rich aroma brought a smile to her face.

"Father, what does this mean?" she asked.

He then explained that the potatoes, the eggs and coffee beans had each faced the same adversity-the boiling water. However, each one reacted differently. The potato went in strong, hard and unrelenting, but in boiling water, it became soft and weak.

The egg was fragile, with the thin outer shell protecting its liquid interior until it was put in the boiling water. Then the inside of the egg became hard.

However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were exposed to the boiling water, they changed the water and created something new.

"Which one are you?" he asked his daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a potato, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

In life, things happen around us, things happen to us, but the only thing that truly matters is what happens within us.

Which one are you? When problems come (and they will) how will we react? Will they make us weak, hard hearted or will they cause us to change into something worthwhile?

"Happiness is not something you find, it's something you create."

Inspirational Quote: "Smile in pleasure, smile in pain; Smile when trouble pours like rain; Smile when someone hurts you, Smile coz someone cares for you."

Monday, October 26, 2009

" Take A Break.............."

(recite this as often as you can........especially after daily prayers........7x)

"Be not like the hypocrite who,
when he talks, tells lies;
when he gives a promise, he breaks it;
and when he is trusted, he proves dishonest."

(Bukhari & Muslim)

Saturday, October 24, 2009

" Life .................."

- Life begins each morning whether we have succeeded or failed or just muddled along. Life is a school to learn, not to unlearn.

- Life is a great teacher of truth. What is truth to one is not truth to another. What is true in one country may be false in another.

- Life is short but the influences of what we do or say is immortal. There needs to be much more of the spirit of fellowship among us and more forgiveness. The power of gentleness is little seen in the world.

- Remember that life's length is not measured by its hours and days, but by that which we have done therein. A useless life is short if it lasts a century.

- There are greater and better things in us all if we would find them out. There will always be in this world — wrongs. No wrong is really successful.

- The day will come when light and truth and the just and the good shall be victorious, and wrong as evil will be no more forever.

- The mystery of the world remains unknown. Our maker alone is the key which unlocks all the mysteries of the universe.

- The world is neither a prison nor a palace of ease, but rather for instruction and discipline.

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

" I Wonder...................."

I wonder.........

It is difficult to know if we make the right decisions sometimes.

Even though we try to listen to our hearts, and when

we make decisions when totally at peace with ourselves?

How many times have you made a decision you totally believed was right?

And, how many times did something happen to cause you to back up and change course?

The last several years various circumstances have made me question “why?”

why did I have to change the course of a decision I had made,

and totally believed was the right thing to do.

I use to trust my gut feelings,

but these days......... I just wonder.

Monday, October 19, 2009

" We Are Travellers.................."

~ We are travellers ~

We are all travelers in the wilderness of the world,
and the best that we can find in our travels is an honest friend.

In order to reach heaven we have to walk through hell first
so that we can appreciate the gift that awaits us at the end of the journey.
We cannot expect Allah to answer our prayers,
before we have made a sincere commitment to change.

Remember, it is only when our hearts have changed then Allah will change our condition.

Thursday, October 15, 2009

" Acceptance.................."

~ Acceptance ~

Listening is a form of accepting.
Accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that ,you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give.
Everything in life depends on how that life accepts its limits.
Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.
Everything in life that we really accept, undergoes a change.
Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together,
but do so with all your heart.

Monday, October 12, 2009

" Will Power................"

~ Will Power ~

Will power is not mental power, but it appears in the form of a mental power: the mind, as a globe, gives out the light of the will.
Will power, plainly speaking, is soul-power. Therefore the more one realizes its source, the more one develops the power of will. No doubt the mind is an instrument, also the senses are instruments of the will power, and if these instruments are not sound and well developed, the will power cannot work properly. It is just like a blunted sword in the hand of a skillful warrior.

Will power is like a battery of life, and as difficult as it is to deal with a strong mechanism, and as dangerous as it is to work with a battery of enormous power, so difficult and dangerous it is to develop and to work with the will power. In the first place, power is blinding, beauty is revealing. Wrong and unjust and unreasonable tendencies may rise from power, and one may destroy oneself in its expression.

Hafiz says, 'Do not let yourself be fooled by the patched sleeve of the dervish, you do not know if under this patched sleeve a mighty arm is not hidden.'

No better use of will power can be made than for self-control, for control of the body, and control of the mind. One who controls his body will control his mind. The one who controls his mind will control his body. The best use one can make of will power is to use this power for self-discipline, on passion, on anger, on all things, which abide in man's nature as his great enemies. In other words, by will power one must build up a force to fight with oneself, with that part of oneself which offends us.

Saturday, October 3, 2009

~ Relationships ~

3 kinds of relationships :

According to ancient philosopher Aristotle, there are three kinds of relationships, only one of which will bring you true happiness.

1.) Relationships of pleasure.

Partners who are about sex, drugs and rock 'n' roll. You share soulless, passionate sex and playful banter -- but they're about the body or ego. They never soul-nurture you with insight and growth, so they never bring real-deal happiness.

2.) Relationships of utility.

Partners you spend time with in hopes of garnering status, power, money and beauty like the rich guy with a trophy girl. Again, this is about body or ego and doesn't bring true joy.

3.) Relationships of shared virtue.

Partners who challenge and inspire you to grow into your highest potential and nurture your soul. A good example is when Jack Nicholson's character in "As Good As It Gets" says, "You make me want to be a better man." When you prioritize seeking a partner who supports you becoming your best self -- instead of crushing on "superficial lures"(hotness, funniness, smartness, success, etc.) -- you wind up with a soul mate/a Prince Charming/a definite keeper!

With this in mind, if you want to be happy in love, you must take time to see past a guy's "superficial lures" and look inside his "superinsidehimself." Unfortunately, those fumes of chemistry can often dizzy a gal into making stupid love choices. That's why it's important to remember: Hot, steamy chemistry eventually fades -- and what's always left beneath is a person's true soul.

If you want to be happy, you must seek a good-hearted, ethical soul who brings you great growth -- not simply a hottie who brings great grope.

For the record: Aristotle wasn't against finding someone friggin' funny or friggin' sexy or friggin' rich. He believed these pleasure-bringing qualities were good for stirring up passion, which humans need to be our fullest selves! But Aristotle recognized "superficial lures" and material goods were simply what he called "means to the ends" of happiness, not "the final ends," which is always to grow into your most esteemed self. As Aristotle said: "Men imagine the causes of happiness lie in external goods. That is, as if they were to ascribe fine and beautiful lyre playing to the quality of the instrument rather than the skill of the player."

A big secret to happiness? Stop focusing on finding a Mr. Right! Start focusing on finding Life Plan Right. When a Mr. Potential Right comes along, you must ask yourself if this guy will lead you to Life Plan Right or Life Plan Wrong.

As you get to know the guy, look to see if he:

1. Offers you exciting growth as well as exciting grope

2. Has developed good character -- so he'll be a positive influence on your character development.

If the guy scores two for two, you're likely in Prince Charming territory.

Thursday, October 1, 2009

~ Something ....Someone ~

Leave ’something’ for ’someone’;
never leave ’someone’ for ’something’!

In life, ’something’
will leave you, but ’someone’ will
always be with you.! …