Tuesday, January 25, 2011

~ How To Accept People And Situations In Our Life ~

How To Accept People And Situations In Our Life ............

It seems that there is so much going on in our lives.

Juggling family, friends, work and relationships in life can be challenging. At times we have a hard time accepting that others cannot see our point of view. This leads to anger, frustration, resentment and a feeling of sadness.

How many times in our life have we just had a conversation and we say to ourself or to the people around us “I can’t believe what he said” or “Why can’t she see that what she is doing is wrong” and the comments go on and on.

Some of us go through life living in our heads and making decisions and judgments about the way we think life should be going and more importantly the way others should be acting or reacting to what we have to say or do. This leads us to such frustration when things don’t go our way or the people in our lives don’t act how we think they should. Hours are spent worrying and stressing ourselves out.

Imagine our life if we could accept or understand someone else’s point of view. I have learned over the years that we are all right in our own heads. Sometimes we can see another point of view but for the most part we are all right. There is nothing wrong with that if you can also understand that everyone else is also right in their own heads.

Here are a few tips to help you understand another persons point of view.

  • Realize that another person firmly believes what they are doing is right (even though we think it is completely crazy). This is a big step to take as you are now seeing another angle to the situation.
  • Accept that others have their own opinion and way of doing things. Instead of thinking that your way is right and convincing others that they are wrong accept that others have their own way of doing things.
  • Dont’ take it personally. This is a tough one especially when it comes to relationships with family. The hardest thing to get over is when someone close to you appears to be intentionally hurting your feelings. Realize that it is their reality and perhaps they are unaware of how they are making you feel.
  • Don’t assume that other people know how you are feeling. A lot of times we assume that others should know how we feel or know what we are thinking. They don’t. Make sure that you tell them what’s on your mind.
  • The way you see the world can be different from the way others perceive it. We are all individuals with different views on the world. Realize that others have their own thoughts and perceptions on situations that are different from yours.

Relationships with others can be a challenging task. Look at it like we are all part of a big blended family. We are all different and this makes for a very interesting life.

When you can accept that we all have our differences this is the first step to personal freedom. It’s not an easy task but if you take it day by day and realize we all see life differently you are on the road to a happier you.

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