Don’t Apologize For Loving Someone – Not Ever ................

 




We can love, love, love but sometimes that love isn’t returned. That’s not our fault. To love or not to love is a choice. We chose to love. They chose not to. This does not mean we are unloveable or unworthy of love. We’re not idiots, fools, or weak for loving. Rather, we have courage. Because we chose to be vulnerable and self-sacrificing; a requirement for love. And when it was over, though the echoes of the painful experiences reverberate in the depths of our being, we picked ourselves up, dusted ourselves off, and we keep pressing onward. 

I’ve made it a promise, in my personal life to never apologize for loving people, even if that love is never returned. To be unloving is the other person’s problem, not mine. 

At the end of our life, the only things you’ll regret are 
 1) Not taking more risks and 
2) Not being more loving toward others.” 

NILAI SEBENAR SEORANG ISTERI... ..........(The Value Of A Wife)

 

A speaker having a little game to guests in the hall with families and ask one person to come forward.


SPEAKER: "Write 10 names closest to you"
Then the man wrote 10 names, neighbors, parents, coworkers, friends, children and even his wife and so on.


SPEAKER: "Now please select 7 in which you want to continue to live with it"

The man who wrote to delete 3 names now.

SPEAKER: "Now take two more names, so stay 5 is the only name on the board ..."

SPEAKER: "Remove 2 names again ..."

The remaining three names, the names of parents, children and his wife.

The hall became silent, they think everything is done and no longer has to be chosen.

SPEAKER suddenly said: "Please remove one name again!"

The man slowly take difficult decisions and to delete the names of her parents.

SPEAKER: "Please select one name again!"

The man became confused. Then lifting chalk and reluctantly began to erase his child's name and the man started to cry.

After a while .................

SPEAKER asked the man, "why did you not choose your parents who have given birth and raise you , not even selecting a child of your own flesh and blood, while a wife you can find another one ?"

Everyone in the hall is transfixed awaiting a response from the man.

Then the man said:


"As time passed, my parents would go away from me, and if an adult child is getting married, and will also leave me. Whereas really can accompany me in this life is my WIFE. Parents and children is not my choice, but God who confer it. While WIFE, I was chosen from many women who are in this world. "
 
Hopefully we can all take lessons from the story above. Love your wife ..

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Seorang penceramah mengadakan permainan kecil kepada tetamu di dewan yang sudah berkeluarga dan meminta 1 orang datang ke depan. 

PENCERAMAH: ”Tulis 10 nama yang paling rapat dengan anda”
Lalu lelaki tersebut menuliskan 10 nama, ada nama jiran, orang tua, teman kerja, sahabat, anak dan juga isterinya serta seterusnya. 

PENCERAMAH: "Sekarang sila pilih 7 di antaranya anda ingin hidup terus bersamanya"
Lelaki itu memadam 3 nama yang ditulisnya tadi.

PENCERAMAH: "Sekarang hapuskan 2 nama lagi, sehingga tinggal 5 nama sahaja di papan tersebut..."

PENCERAMAH : “Hapus 2 nama lagi...”
Maka tinggal 3 nama, iaitu nama orang tua, anak dan isterinya.
Suasana dewan menjadi hening, mereka berfikir semua sudah selesai dan tak ada lagi yang harus dipilih.

Tiba-tiba PENCERAMAH berkata: “Silakan padam 1 nama lagi!”
Lelaki itu dengan perlahan-lahan mengambil keputusan yang sulit dan menghapus nama orang tuanya.

PENCERAMAH : "Silakan pilih 1 nama lagi!"
Lelaki tersebut menjadi bingung. Kemudian mengangkat kapur dan dengan berat hati mulai menghapus nama anaknya dan lelaki itu pun menangis.

Setelah suasana tenang,

PENCERAMAH bertanya kepada lelaki itu, "kenapa kau tidak memilih orang tuamu yang telah melahirkan dan membesarkanmu, tidak juga memilih anak yang darah daging anda sendiri, sedangkan isteri itu dapat kau cari lagi?"

Semua orang di dalam dewan tersebut terpaku menunggu jawapan dari lelaki tersebut.

Lalu lelaki itu menjawab: 

”Seiring waktu berlalu, orang tua saya akan pergi meninggalkan saya, manakala anak jika sudah dewasa akan berkahwin, dan juga pasti akan meninggalkan saya. Sedangkan yang benar-benar boleh menemani saya dalam hidup ini hanyalah ISTERI saya. Orang tua dan anak bukan saya yang memilih, tapi Tuhan yang menganugerahkannya. Sedangkan ISTERI, sayalah yang memilih dari sekian banyak wanita yang ada di dunia ini.”

Semoga kita semua boleh mengambil hikmah dari cerita diatas. Sayangilah isteri anda..

Life ..........

 

Life is not a bed of roses. Happiness, suffering, misery, success and failure, every thing goes hand in hand. Many times you feel disappointed with your circumstances but  When you feel that you are not the only one who is suffering , you are not out there alone, only then you find the courage and motivation to pursue the positive changes you want to make in your life and of those around you.

Making your mark on the world is not easy. If it were easy, anyone would do it. It takes patience,commitment and dedication to be an accomplished person. Only those who have tasted defeat know the importance of both, success and failure. the real test is not whether you avoid failure, because you won’t. It’s whether it hardens or shames you, or whether you learn from it. Perseverance and courage are the keys to keep moving ahead even when all odds are against you.

  I am going to  share with you the written words of some of the most remarkable personalities ever. These words will teach you great life lessons which would have taken you years of experience to learn otherwise.

1- “The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”

(C. JoyBell C.)

Interpretation: Keep pushing yourself to the limits to stay ahead. That’s the only way to grow up.

2- “There’s always a positive to those negative times, because you come out of it so much stronger and wiser. Strength comes from every hardship, and it’s been a lesson for me.

(Christina Aguilera)

Interpretation: Tough time of life is good in a way that it makes you stronger and wiser.

3- “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”

(Robert Byrne)

Interpretation: If you don’t have no purpose in life, you’ll spend your life like a leaf broken from the tree floating wherever current takes it.

4- “It’s nice to look back in your past when you see it as a lesson, not as something to regret.

(Unknown)

Interpretation: Most of the time when we look back at our past, all we see is regret which, in turn, makes us feel sad and angry. But if we can change our perspective and view our past not as a regret but as a lesson, our life will be wonderful because then our past will not haunt us but makes us feel happy.

5- “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.

- C. S. Lewis

Interpretation: Age is just a number. Don’t let it cease your dreaming. Don’t let it hinder your progress.

6-Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes
and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful.

(Norman Vincent Peale)

Interpretation: How your day is going to unfold depends on how you start your day. So start well.

7- “I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.”

(Unknown)

Interpretation: Forgive yourself and others and move on.

8- “Life is too short to spend your precious time trying to convince a person who wants to live in gloom and doom otherwise. Give lifting that person your best shot, but don’t hang around long enough for his or her bad attitude to pull you down. Instead, surround yourself with optimistic people.”

(Zig Ziglar_

Interpretation: The kind of people you hang out with have a great influence on your personality. Therefore, always surround yourself with like-minded and positive people.

9-I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.

(Bill Cosby)

Interpretation: Don’t change your personality and attitude to match up with someone else’s expectation. Say what you really want to say. Do what you really want to do. Don’t give a damn about what other people will think or how they will perceive you. Be yourself – your real authentic self.

10- “Bad habits cause failure. Identify the habits holding you back and make a decision to crush them. The mentally tough mind is like a flourishing garden, and bad habits are the weeds that suffocate it. Watering the flowers without killing the weeds is an act of self-delusion.”

(Steve Seibold)

Interpretation: You’re your habits. Everything you do from the moment you wake up to the moment you sleep is a habit. If you’re not satisfied and happy with your life, identify the habit that is causing unhappiness. Make a written note of the habit causing you to stress. That’s the first step.

Now the second step is to get rid of the habit. You can do it by replacing your bad habit with a new good habit. Follow this new habit untill it becomes a part of your personality which, as far as my experience, takes anywhere about 21 to 30 days. Follow the same step for all your bad habits.

If you follow this routine for a year, you’ll have 12 brand new consciously chosen good habits as a part of your personality.


What do you think of these quotes? What life lessons have you learned from these quotes?

If You Truly Loved Yourself ............

 







If You Truly Loved Yourself .......... You Could Never Hurt Another

Those who experiences the unity of life
sees their own Self in all beings
and all beings in their own Self
and looks on everything with an impartial eye

Those who knows life flows
feels no wear or tear
needs no mending or repair

In the end
these things matter most
How well did you love?
How fully did you live?
How deeply did you let go....