" Love And Honesty........................"

Love And Honesty...........
(Mon, June 2, 2008 - 7:25 PM )


In a relationship, any relationship, complete honesty is always needed.
In fact, honesty should be part of the relationship’s foundation.
The principle behind it is that basically, no one likes being lied to,
and if a relationship is to flourish, it should not be peppered with lies.

Lying with words is simple enough to pull off but easy enough to detect.
No matter how smooth and suave the lie has been delivered,
we all have an innate sense of knowing that we were lied to.
Just feeling that we have been deceived already hurts, regardless
of whether it was done deliberately or not.

But there is another form of lying that is more dangerous than lying with words.
It is called emotional dishonesty. There are times that you like the guy so much
that you would do anything to keep him with you. You would change your manner
of speaking, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair, your personal routine,
everything about you, just to please him. In effect, you are lying to yourself by not
staying true to your own identity, and you are lying to him as well for showing him
a different person than who you really are.

In the end, the truth shall come out. You are not only in danger of losing him when
the truth behind the lies is finally revealed, but you would also lose yourself in the
process. Losing yourself is one of the worst possible outcomes in the end of a relationship;
sometimes, it is hard to regain the sense of who you truly are.

All of us have our own stories to tell, stories of how we have loved someone
and did everything we can to keep him with us, to make him stay as long as possible.

As Whitney Houston once sang a long time ago, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.”
Love for your own self is something you should never compromise in a relationship.
To deny this is to hide your face behind a mask, making the relationship nothing but a charade.

~ * ~

Everybody Knows:.......

You can't be all things to all people.
You can't do all things at once.
You can't do all things equally well.
You can't do all things better than everyone else.
Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's.

So:
You have to find out who you are, and be that.
You have to decide what comes first, and do that.
You have to discover your strengths, and use them.
You have to learn not to compete with others,
Because no one else is in the contest of *being you*.

Then:
You will have learned to accept your own uniqueness.
You will have learned to set priorities and make decisions.
You will have learned to live with your limitations.
You will have learned to give yourself the respect that is due.
And you'll be a most vital mortal.

Dare To Believe:
That you are a wonderful, unique person.
That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That it's more than a right, it's your duty, to be who you are.
That life is not a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish.
And you'll be able to stay one up on what used to get you down.

......be honest